Reboot Yourself During Your Job Search: Control Alt Delete
We all get to a point where we feel stuck in our job search. It feels like no matter how hard we push, nothing seems to go quite right (or at least not how we wanted)—and life seems to lock up at the wrong time. And, it’s all unplanned. Don’t get discouraged! It’s just time to reboot yourself.
That’s what we do when our computers or devices lock up, get overloaded, or stuck, right? The first method of troubleshooting is to hit Control-Alt-Delete.
It almost always works with our computers—and it can do the same during a job search.
When I feel stuck or frustrated, I realize it’s either because I’m trying to control something I shouldn’t or can’t—OR, I’m not taking control where I need to and the “tail is wagging the dog.”
This is the time to check the Control button.
Do we need to let go of something we can’t control? Or, are we trying to control too much and denying others the opportunity to step in and grow?
Maybe we’ve been avoiding a decision, action or conversation and it’s time to step in, take control, be bold and provide proper boundaries and guidance.
After we have a firm finger on our Control trigger, we need to hit Alt to alter our behavior.
In order to get to different results, we will need to do different things. What behaviors can we alter to produce a different outcome?
And, if we truly believe our behaviors are in proper alignment, then check any “ALT-terior” (ulterior) motives. I call this checking my heart or the true reasons I am doing what I’m doing. Sometimes, I realize that my heart is not in the right place.
Now comes the hard part…
We have to Delete the prior events, or what we’ve been making up in our head, get rid of the pent up frustrations and stop carrying around the past.
We start from NOW — and, I mean right now where there is NO history to remind us of anything.
Most people like to say “Live like it’s your last day.” I prefer, “Live each day as if it’s your first.” See everything with a fresh new perspective that’s full of opportunity, excitement, and wonderment.
You CAN Reboot Yourself
If you hit all three of these points — Control, Alt and Delete — you can reboot yourself during your job search!
We need to afford ourselves a little time to reboot.
There will be a pause, a blank screen for a bit, and that’s perfectly okay. We all have different operating systems, so be patient with yourself.
To your best!
Mark James, CPC is the President of Hire Consulting Services, established in 1999. He is a Certified Personnel Consultant and has been providing executive career transition coaching and executive recruiting services for over 25 years. Mark is also a Certified Partner with Predictive Index® Behavior Assessments focused on talent selection and leadership development.